Massachusetts was the first state to legalize same sex marriage, back in 2003, with the first same sex couples marrying in 2004. Now nine states and the District of Columbia have legalized same sex marriage and people talk of a “sea change” in marriage in the US (and, indeed, elsewhere, as similar changes have been underway in other countries, particularly in Europe). This raised the question of the constitutionality of DOMA, the Defense of Marriage Act, passed by Congress and signed into law by President Clinton (who has recently spoken out in opposition to the law) in 1997. In all, there are some 1,100 federal marriage benefits denied to all same sex married couples, regardless of whether they were legally married according to their state law. Beyond the questions of marriage benefits, however, there are also questions regarding the dissolution through divorce of any same sex marriage.

Obtaining a divorce for same sex couples is an area replete with difficulties, including issues of jurisdiction for divorce (your state may determine divorce based on residency, which will prevent the Commonwealth of Masschusetts from having jurisdiction to grant divorce even if the marriage was originally performed in Massachusetts), and a great many limitations on “standard” divorce practices due to the fact that same sex marriages are not recognized at the federal level. These limitations may include alimony, pension divisions, and limitations on bankruptcy provisions. This is an area where a very experienced divorce lawyer is often required.